I love when items are multipurpose. It’s always a delightful surprise; “look! This chair is made of edible plant based protein!”. When versatility translates to clothing it’s just as fun. I bought this lightweight jacket in Tel Aviv on my most recent trip to Israel. Tel Aviv has some excellent avant- guard fashion. I love going to Israel and really treasure what I find there, whether it’s an item of religious significance or anything else. I stayed in the artsy area of Neve Tzedek with my daughter in February. While wandering the little side streets I found this great boutique, Juliette. I loved this light as air, color blocked jacket. I loved the contrast of the gray and blush pink, the popped collar, and the drawstring cords. And of course that it wasn’t clear if it was a jacket or dress. Let’s make it both. I love adding to the color blocking with a clean white shoe, be it a sneaker, flat, or bootie. I wore this to synagogue recently and it was a super cool five second look. Effortless, chic, and innovative.
If you’re an observant Jew, the words “after Shabbos” are part of your vernacular. It’s always been so amusing to me that this day of rest which we all look forward to, gets forgotten about in two seconds as soon as it’s technically over. Even from childhood that transition from quiet and staying put to tv, phone calls, and a maniacal need to make plans has made me anxious. It’s too startling a shift. It still bothers me; “what’s the rush?” I’ll hold onto tranquility as much as I can. It saddens me that my kids, and certainly myself, lunge for our phones as soon as we can. That driving need for technology and distraction. Oh well, such is modern life. At least we do have the gift of those stripped down 25 hours once a week.
I don’t view Shabbos as religious. Personally, I see it as required detox that does indeed force us to sit with ourselves. If done mindfully, we will automatically connect to God. I wish everyone would keep it, not just Jews. I’ve always felt blessed to have been raised with Shabbos in my routine. Having said that, I ordered this custom tank top from my fave Kidd’s boutique, Gigi and Lo. My friend Elisha who owns the store is a hilarious human. I look at her and laugh. Her humor and pizazz shine through in her incredibly curated inventory. Her children’s clothing ranges from classy and understated to “rah rah let’s party!”. There’s something for everyone taste wise. I saw Elisha designing custom “apres pool” children’s wear on her instagram last year. I loved the nod to the whole “apres ski” genre; that category alone is so satirical to me. My crazy Jewess brain naturally went to “apres Shabbos” and Elisha was happy to bring my lil vision to fruition. This tank cracks me up. I will incorporate humor anywhere I can. I love pairing this silly shirt with a more serious pants suit. This look here was a great transitional move. A light boyfriend blazer that is easily removed when temperatures warm up. A tank and leather pants never need an explanation. These rad shades were found on sale in a random bin in a nutso boutique in Tel Aviv, which leads me to believe they might not actually be Miu Miu (who cares). Peeps, I highly recommend paying Gigi and Lo a visit. It’s located in Teaneck, New Jersey. It’s a magnificent store with a delightful range of children’s clothing and accessories. You’ll have the best dressed kid at the party (not that you care about that, of course not).
Another item I do not leave home without are my mala beads. Given to me by my yoga teacher as a gift while doing a 40 hour workshop at my studio, this 108 bead I necklace is always on my person. It reminds me to be preset, stay calm, that peace is always available to me, and to be patient. As in, I’ll count them with a mantra while waiting in line. That’s practical, immediate patience, not just more abstract “trust the process” patience. I once lent them to a woman sobbing on a plane. I counted them on line with my son at a museum. I pray on them during flight turbulence. I wear them on my wrist wrapped as a bracelet or as a necklace. They make me feel safe and aware during uncomfortable encounters. This particular one is a brown wood. It’s neutral and goes with anything, as does yogic philosophy. Essentially the mala beads remind me of how I want to conduct myself. They also remind me that I’m not merely an individual. That I’m part of something so much greater on a cosmic and collective level. I feel connected to anyone else I see wearing them. They evoke warmth in me when I think of my special spiritual community in New Jersey. I left this set at a store a few weeks ago. Not knowing if I’d see them again I took to Amazon and bought a bunch more in a variety of colors. I love layering them or wearing one on each wrist. I’ve wrapped them around an ankle too. They’re truly a comfort to me and hold me to a higher, more conscious standard of living. They represent a natural state of being, which is a healthy antidote to fashion.
One of my top three warm weather must haves are sarongs in a variety of colors and patterns. As I continue down the boho chic style path (barefoot), which I’m loving, I have been showing my sarong collection some big hippie chic love. I say “collection” because I have been acquiring more lately on my travels. I have recently been fortunate enough to have traveled to several South American countries. These places have some wonderful fabrics in every color and pattern you can imagine. Batik, watercolor florals, elephants, embroidery, striped, you name it. Gone are the days where sarongs are only used on the beach. I have been also wearing mine as scarves for both head and neck, as a tube top knotted behind my back, as a halter dress, a strapless dress belted or not, as a chic outdoor blanket, a summer tablecloth, a shawl, and of course as a sexy skirt on the beach. Last week in Florida I wore my old embroidered white one slung low on my hips with an open linen button down shirt over my bikini top and mala bead necklace. It was an awesomely effortless and practical poolside look. I’d even wear a sarong as a regular skirt on a hot day. I love repurposing everything and I always have a sarong in my beach bag since they’re so versatile. I’ve also used them as pretty picnic blankets, which creates such a fresh summery vibe even if you’re spontaneously lunching in the middle of a city. Those of you with babies can use them as light blankets or to drape over the stroller to shield your pup from the sun. I bet most of you own at least one sarong; this summer season make extra use out of this always pretty and purposeful item.
Boy, do I recall how excited I was to buy this Anna Sui silk, billowy top. I acquired this 20 years ago. I had been a rabid fan of her designs for years, and even having a sock from one of your fashion idols is thrilling. I still love this shirt. The tan, red, and blue color scheme feels vintage to me, while the loose fit feels boho. Thank god I didn’t give this away in one of my bi annual frantic closet cleaning binges. A few years went by where I didn’t wear it but I never wanted to get rid of it. Now it’s a vintage Anna Sui piece. Always hold on to your designer stuff!! The blouse works tucked in or out I happen to like a blousy look, but it’s also nice accentuate the fact that you’re not pregnant. Hence the tight jeans. I love this hat, you’ve seen it before. I always get sad when the time to put away my fabulous winter hats arrives. But that means the straw ones that I’ve been collecting for decades. They need fresh air too. This is a good seasonally transitional look; fitted denim, a silk shirt in a warm color palette, and a wide brim hat to add some drama and depth. I’d wear this under my vintage fur vest you’ve seen dozens of times. It’s cool how even a subtle designer item can elevate an outfit.
Starting from the time in high school when I used safety pins as hair barrettes, I’ve always loved “using things for other things”. That includes using outerwear as the outfit, be it a long jacket worn belted as a dress or a shorter one used as a top. This Elizabeth and James swing tuxedo jacket is soft in color but sexy in style. Keeping it on over a black lace bralette makes it a shirt. It’s a cool contrast between the obvious coverage of a blazer with the low neckline that exposes hints of black lace. This is a great going out to dinner look. I paired it with the leather Rag and Bone pants that I wear constantly. The leather has stretched out over my ass to the point where these pants are ridiculously comfortable. I recall being scared to buy them. I thought it would be a demeaning process trying to wrestle into them, they’d be too constricting etc. I seriously love them and they always make me feel good. They were a splurge but so worth it, considering how much airtime they get. This look would look great with heels or chic sneakers, which fortunately applies to many looks of today. I love how the lower neckline of the jacket can accommodate a funky statement necklace, which is needed to really take this ensemble into “fun night in the town”. Of course, if your bralette is of the crop top ilk (as opposed to a bra), you can always take off the jacket if you’re in the mood, on a dance floor, or simply taking advantage of the two weeks out of the month when you’re not bloated.
What else do you title a post about an ensemble made of your favorite silk pajama top and feathered skirt? This outfit surprised me, in that I didn’t think it would look good together in actuality. I gave it a shot, mixing pieces in an unexpected way; this can either be a genius move or epic fail (both gross exaggerations of course. I’m neither Einstein nor the guy who made everyone panic about Y2K). But from a fashion perspective it is indeed very cool when you can completely rework and repurpose an item of clothing. It speaks to creativity, chutzpah, and individuality. This feathered DKNY skirt is def a statement piece. I feel it makes my ass look twice it’s normal size, but no one notices because there are feathers literally everywhere. The Rag and Bone silk pajama top is easily one of my favorite items in my entire closet. I always feel so good in it. I love the loose pajama top look over skinny jeans and motorcycle boots. The burgundy and navy top contrasted beautifully with the cream colored skirt here. There was something effortless about knotting the top to make the proportions work. I bought the large flower thing decades ago, during that Carrie Bradshaw flower craze. I’ve worn it never. Sticking it in my hair was a last minute playful (god, I hate that word when it’s applied to anything but puppies) move that looked cute. A guy I dated recently told me an outfit he liked on my Instagram was playful and I wanted to vomit. Anyhoo, I’d totally wear this look to a party, and add five points knowing it’d be the most unique look there🏻. Statement skirt, a tied silk top, complementary heels, optional señorita flower. Just don’t make the flower a fresh one, that somehow changes the mood to cringeworthy. I can’t explain it, just trust me.
Everyone knows that an essential piece in every chick’s closet in an LBD, a Little Black Dress. It always looks good, sexy, and can be dressed up or down. It’s a versatile item that you can have for decades, if it’s a fairly classic style and your body doesn’t radically change. I generally like to dress more interestingly than a little black one piece wonder, but sometimes there is no denying the ease and power of the black cocktail dress. This Roland Mouret number has been my friend for maybe 9 years now. It still looks great on its own or jazzed up, like it is here. Just because a black dress can carry itself, doesn’t mean it has to all the time (hence, the versatility). I always feel that outerwear is just as important as the main outfit component, even if it’s going straight to be hung up in the coat closet. Btw, I hate checking my coats; I’m always worried they won’t be there when I go to retrieve them (yeah yeah, non attachment, I know. I try.).
This was the first time I busted out this new purple iridescent blazer. I’m kind of obsessed with it. The color, sheen, and the ringmaster cut make it so fresh and fabulous. I love shimmer and it felt very festive yet chic to head out for the night in this jacket. The purple feathered collar is one of my fave accessories. I can only use it sparingly, and it’s been awhile since I wore it last. I love a funky collared piece. What drove home this look to make it black tie, despite the dress being shorter, were the magnificent pieces of jewelry from the new Rami Gem collection. Rami happens to be a close friend of mine, and has exquisite taste in the finest gemstones. He is my go to jewelry designer whenever I need major bling. His work is always show stopping yet classy. Anything ostentatious or too in your face isn’t for me. I trust his taste completely, and he has a huge selection to perfect any look. The cool thing about accessorizing a little black dress is that you can remove the added pieces when you want to get down and dance and still look amazing. I love when an outfit is flexible and modular like that. Rigidity sucks, right? Clothing works for you, not the other way around. A little black dress, a fabulous statement blazer, funky neckwear, and fantastic jewelry. Just make sure the accessories work together and not compete with one another. You’ll know. If not, less is more and stick to one statement element. Bye🕺🏽
I love orange! Bold and bright, it knows how to confidently make a statement. This skirt, while not in your face, stands out for its particular shade of orange as well as it’s midi length and soft pleating. It’s gratifying when a piece you never thought you’d get so much use out of proves you wrong. This skirt is fairly new and I paired it with this top I’ve had for about 17 years. Of course, you’ve all seen this belt a million times. That’s simply because it works with almost everything, despite its large scale. It’s also the only good black belt I have. I’ve always loved this top. It was my first silk blouse ever I think. The collar is so ladylike and delicate, which is why I like to rough up the sleeves by keeping them unbuttoned. The gray, black, yellow and orange color palette printed on silk is also a nice contrast of strong and soft. This shirt is deceptive in that it’s very modest but not really conservative (which to me is a synonym for boring). Belting the top over the orange pleated skirt sticks with the modest yet interesting theme. It’s perfect for Shabbat or holidays. Major bonus points for being flowy and comfortable. This is true effortless chic, which is why I went with this hairstyle. A black boyfriend blazer would top this off to add another layer. Contrast the feminine silhouette of the outfit with the relaxed boyfriend fit of the jacket, and keep the blazer on the longer side to stay close to the longer length of the shirt. You want some of the shirt peeking out but not too much or it will look disproportionate. This look is a great template for experimenting with bolder colors while not feeling like a clown🤡. Choose one bright piece and mix it with neutrals in your comfort zone. It can be an accessory too. One of my favorite looks is to pair a navy dress with neon orange shoes. Color is fun. It makes people happy. Enough with the all black already!
So this second look was an impromptu addition to this last shoot. I love to maximize my time as much as I can when photographing, and before I changed out of this top and jeans, I quickly changed the look. It was an easy transformation since the main pieces stayed on. I undid my hair and swapped the palm tree cardigan for a vintage Marc Jacobs corduroy jacket. That was all it took to give this butterfly blouse and bellbottoms a whole new feel. I love this jacket. I forget about it a lot so it doesn’t get as much airtime as it should. My louder, larger coats overpower it so I don’t even see it in the coat closet. But when I do spot it, it’s like, ah...there you are! The neutral color, cropped length, and feminine sleeve shape add instant effortless chic. This jacket requires zero thought. It’s a terrific lightweight yet substantial essential piece, due to the soft corduroy material. Who doesn’t love corduroy? It’s so yummy in its sensibility. It is the embodiment of Autumn, but will help me stylishly transition into Spring as the cold temps lighten up. That’s a theme here with these two looks; chic, practical, whimsical looks that are grounded and can go from season to season. We have so much to learn from butterflies. The symbolism is endless. That must be why I love them so much, for what they represent. Mother Nature does it again; teaching us about style and evolution. Homegirl sure knows her stuff.
Who knew that a butterfly print would get me so much use?? This ancient J Crew silk button down seems to go with everything, including this Hawaiian print cardigan. I am a huge fan of a kitschy Hawaiian shirt, so I had to have this palm tree printed sweater from Scotch and Soda. I know of this company for its fabulous kids’ clothes, and I was psyched to come across their adult line. There are retro undertones in this ensemble; the bellbottom jeans that are ubiquitous in my wardrobe, the printed silk shirt, and the 70’s feel of the cardigan in both print and length. Even the way my hair is styled hints at a throwback. I’m digging the chic mom on the go look. I definitely don’t look this put together when I’m shopping for snacks and soap at Target, but it’s my shoot and I’ll pretend if I want to. I love how this outfit is the perfect layered, transitional look going from Winter to Spring, which thankfully is around the corner. Ladies, try for a longer cardigan instead of a jacket as the weather gets warmer. Short cardigans look ridiculous on me, but this longer version felt more my speed. Stay tuned for Look 2 based on the 🦋 blouse. Repurposing is always the jam.
I love this coat. A metallic puffer is nothing new at the moment but whatever. It’s very warm, well structured, has a hood, and is super cute. We can’t always reinvent the wheel. My friend told me his ten year old daughter has the same coat. Again, whatever. Any whimsical black hat looks so cute with this jacket, as well as any black snow boot. My vintage moon boots are the best. I had the helium balloons leftover from my son’s birthday. An easy cute photo. Letting go of balloons is an uncomfortable sensation. One minute you’re holding on to something so joyful and pretty, the next minute they’re floating away from you destination unknown. It’s never easy to let go of something we love, even if it’s an inanimate object. Even balloons are a lesson in non attachment. Watching anyone or anything leave us is hard. Which is why warmth is important, namely inner warmth. The seasons will always change. Cold will always come. Staying insulated is a perspective as well as an outer necessity.
Easily one of my favorite movies of all time. I highly recommend it if you’ve never seen it. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately, in that it had such magnificent expressions of fierce love, shown in different stages of life. A teenage couple were consumed with fiery love, and an older, more mature couple had this unbelievably deep, restrained connection that showed through their skin. I was 22 and had never see anything like it. Still haven’t. I also have never seen anything like this sweater, which got me hella attention the first day of NYFW. I mean, I knew it would get noticed so I deliberately wore it that day.
This is one of my favorite looks EVER. The chic black pleated skirt, black turtleneck, and pulled back bun contrasted with the over the top sweater was such a statement. It really was an effortless pairing, and no matter what I wear I always say I need it to be fast and right. Fussy thinking results in a fussy outfit. I do love my kimonos, and this wild sweater felt like a large scale knit kimono. The on the back added even more personality. My makeup artist, Nancy, was so excited to finally get more dramatic on my eyes. I gave her free reign to do whatever she wanted, whereas usually my instructions are to keep things as naturally as possible. But, alas my darlings, Fashion Week has no interest in “natural” anything, and so it was time to play. That’s my favorite element of NYFW; the wild creativity being worn on the streets. Colors, patterns, headpieces, it all comes out at this time. That’s what amazes me about New York in general though; on any given Tuesday at 3 PM you can spot someone dressed like this (downtown). This sweater is one of those pieces that becomes such a prized standout in a wardrobe, and hopefully an heirloom. Something as special as this should never be given away. It must be appreciated, honored, seen, and enjoyed. Exactly like love️🖤
Felt a lil Parisian in this ensemble. The boucle’ coat, vintage leather gloves, and the fitted beret took me back a few decades to a quaint European cafe, croissant in hand. Carbs were not yet verboten, and it was considered in extremely poor taste to even think about leaving your house sans a chapeau or gloves. There was certainly something so lovely about all these glamorously dolled up ladies strolling the streets. But, Man, what a pain in the ass to have to get so decked out all the time! Today, in a time where folks where sweatpants to the theater and jeans to a fancy restaurant, it is indeed nice to find a balance between the extremes of being a total shlump or a pageant contestant. In 2019 where the chief rule of fashion is that “there are no rules”, I do believe that there should be decorum applied to how we show up to certain events. It’s just about showing respect to that particular environment, as well as just having some good old fashionable fun. We’ve got the clothes, we might as well use them, right?
In this case, I wanted to be super efficient at my photo shoot by using this black turtleneck dress in a couple different ways. It’s just easier to not always be changing; feel me? I photographed the dress with no accouterments, then grabbed some select pieces to give it a completely different look. I’m a glove fiend, and loved how the pop of white lightens up the look. I love any type of headwear “cocked jauntily to the side” (ok, looks like we’re in London now), and my belt gave an instant waistline. The coat, another gem found at Century, lent the perfect light yet substantial coverage. I’d also love throwing this coat over jeans, a t shirt, and crisp white sneakers during a transitional season. True, the era of super fancy dressing is mostly over. Anything goes nowadays. Which only means we get to pull inspiration from wherever feels right at the moment.
Peeps, if this coat could talk... it’s been in my family for many decades, and I’ve been lucky enough to own it for the past 18 years. My grandfather made two for each of his daughters. My great grandfather was a furrier in Poland, which was akin to driving the ice cream truck on a blazing hot day. It’s a smart business to enter in a freezing climate. I wouldn’t buy fur today, but I do enjoy wearing the heirloom coats. They hold such sentiment. This coat always gets a ton of attention. It’s just a super cool piece that elevates every single look. I loved how it went so beautifully over this darling storybook sweater. I bought this sweater off of Instagram. I don’t recommend that; most stuff I’ve ordered sight unseen was very poorly made and of really cheap quality, despite the pictures looking good. I wound up giving most of it away immediately and chalked it up to a lesson learned. This sweater though was fortunately as advertised. I love that whole classic Beatrix Potter feel. The sweet, Rockwellian bunnies sledding in the snow. When my first son was bored, I had his nursery painted floor to ceiling in the most beautiful collection of Peter Rabbit scenes. We no longer live in that house, and I miss that room. It brought me tremendous joy, rocking my own little bunny while staring at the characters nestled amongst the leaves. The warm, varied camel and brown coloring of the sweater and jacket made for a lovely pairing, while remaining a not obvious choice for each other. Hmmmm... perhaps I should apply that line of thinking to dating too.
I swear I manifested this coat into existence. It sounds weird but it’s the truth. It all began one day in the summer, when I was thinking about how I could enhance my winter wardrobe with just a few carefully selected, useful items. Most of my coats are very old. I have some that are vintage from 50 years ago and some from 15 years ago. I have trenches in various fabrics, puffers in different colors and styles, vests, motorcycle jackets, pea coats in a range of lengths, you name it. I’ve always loved outerwear, and the one thing I felt I “needed” was a long, nautical style military coat. I figured I could make a chic and impactful statement with this coat of my dreams. Buttons, patches, wide color, a sweeping length with a tailored fit. The idea of it instantly took shape in my head. I just knew I’d find it (or that it would find me).
Months later, as fashion fate would have it, I met this coat at Century 21 while shopping with my daughter. There it was, only one and in my size exactly. It was love at first sight. I seriously could not believe that there was just one that fit so perfectly, waiting for me amongst the chaos of a huge discount store. It was as if there was a spotlight on the coat and the rest of the store faded to black. Yeah, I know I’m being dramatic, but a good coat will serve you well for decades. It’s indeed exciting to find a piece you know you’ll love for many years to come. It’s so warm because of the length, and the tailoring is instantly chic, thereby really enhancing whatever look I’m wearing underneath. I never want to take it off since I usually like it better then my outfit anyway. A statement coat required a statement hat, and this wide brimmed beauty from Urban Outfitters definitely did the trick. I love this hat. It’s so Carly Simon/Stevie Nicks from back in the day. I wore the hat to the last night of Fashion Week, atop a black turtleneck and a wine colored leather trench coat. It’s remarkable how just two impactful pieces can create such a mood. Manifestation is a real thing, Peeps. Out of all the nonsense I could have been cooking up in my mental kitchen, envisioning this boss ass coat wasn’t as nuts as it sounds. I willed it into my wardrobe. Now if I could just will these five pounds off...
If ever there was a statement skirt, this is it. Purchased 15 years ago at this incredible store in Englewood (Galleria Neoponti of blessed memory), this was a very daring move for me at that stage. My style had not even begun to shape itself, and most of what I wore then I’d never wear now. First of all, I was 25 with two kids. I was in full on mom mode, which didn’t look like the mom mode of today. The 25 year olds I see in these here parts are generally way cooler than my friends and I were. I’m not going to say we didn’t care; we did, we just didn’t know. We looked cute and fine but not particularly fashion savvy. There was no internet onslaught that exposed us to what was out there, so we bought what we saw. If it was cute and comfortable that was enough. But alas, one day I ventured into this avant- guard, way too cool for me at the time boutique, and connected with this incredible skirt. It remains one of my most prized purchases. It’s Commes Des Garçon, a designer I have always loved for its daring, cutting edge style. I love their deconstruction and distressing of fabrics and patterns. This piece is made of overlapping fabrics, frayed edges, and non obvious layering. It’s heavy and often falls off hangers, so it’s definitely a cold weather item. I have worn it with bodysuits, button downs, t shirts, and turtlenecks. I always wear a black top to keep the statement super strong. This cutout shoulder top is perfect, in that the little flashes of flesh give it some air. This is a heavy piece in both weight and affect. You need no accessories here; the skirt and the head to toe black are enough. Anything additional would clog the look. It’s so gratifying when an investment pays off, in any area. I’m glad I had the foresight to boldly go where I’d never gone before, and bought this skirt which was out of my then comfort zone. Even if you think something is “so not you” but you really love it, follow that. We get so annoyed with ourselves when we leave opportunities behind. It’s a frustrating feeling. Trusting our instincts won’t always be right, but the more we practice doing it, the more right decisions we are likely to make in the long run.
Bond Girl reference noted. Ok, so this outfit is my Rio Carnivale look. Why I feel I need such a look, being a sabbath observer from Bergen County, is another story entirely. But it definitely conjures up Charro shaking her maracas, shimmying around. I bought this liquid gold ensemble when I was waist deep in my Norma Kamali phase. I happen to love the lame’ metallic look, and the stretch in the pants are flattering and forgiving. This teeny off the shoulder crop top felt like a risk, but if there’s anything that justifiably holds us back in life, it should not be clothing. People put waaaaayyyy too much thought into what they can’t/shouldn’t wear. “What will people think?”, “I cant pull that off”. Ya know, insecure thoughts like that. True, clothing reflects personality, and thank God we aren’t all the same. But there was something liberating about graduating from the “that’s not age/socially/religiously appropriate” mentality that I too used to have, to the F It attitude that serves us all better.
I’ve gotten a lot of use out of these pants as a separate. There are matching long gloves that I adore too. Gold is so flattering. It has a goddess like quality to it that’s bold but so feminine. It feels and looks regal. It definitely celebrates being a strong, shimmering woman. This striped blazer was a great purchase from Century 21 last year before Fall Fashion Week. It’s Sonia Rykiel, one of my favorite designers. Finding a gem at Century is so gratifying. That place doesn’t overwhelm me; rather I like the challenge of emerging victorious when I find the golden ticket. You’ve gotta focus at stores like that, and focus is good. It temporarily eliminates excess crap floating around in our minds. If shopping can do that for you, great. Even if you’re a conservative dresser, I really recommend including some well placed shine in your wardrobe. It adds so much. A purse, a shoe, a statement cuff, even a pocket square tucked into a tailored, navy blazer would look killer. Do something today, anything, that makes you want to give yourself a gold star ⭐️. There is no one who didn’t feel like a lottery winner when our teachers used to reward and acknowledge our achievements. Most of us are no longer in school, so it’s up to us to reward and acknowledge ourselves. Shine on, Peeps
Me, not Him. Why? Because the last time I put on this gorgeous Oscar de la Renta gown it was way looser. I haven’t worn it since my daughter’s bat mitzvah three years ago. I felt like a queen that night, and this dress was sheer perfection. I bought it at first sight. I’m not a clothes researcher. If I love something I’m done. I don’t need to know what else is out there. This gown reminded me of something Gwen Stefani would wear to the Grammy’s. It was rock and roll glamour to me. This was the first thing I tried on and the last. While my body is currently stronger and more toned, I’m not as skinny. I feel differently about this depending on the day. I’m not sure if I’m justifying things when I tell myself I prefer the “not as thin yet more fit” version. But I was not happy when I could barely zip this up on my recent shoot. My boobs were spilling out (a good thing) but the zipper was not exactly cooperative. This dress was very expensive and I’d like to wear it. It’s an Oscar for chrissakes!!!! The incredible thing about Oscar de la Renta’s designs is how incredibly wearable they are. He designed for actual women to wear in actual real life scenarios. None of that whacko runway nonsense that no one in their right mind would wear. Truthfully, I do think I put on a couple pounds lately and I’d like to be a drop leaner. It’s been great not weighing myself on a scale the past few years. It can really mess with you. But I don’t like my clothing to be tight. It’s like a constant reminder to put down the quinoa. I was annoyed I let that happen, but what was done can be undone. This Moto jacket wasn’t intended to camouflage anything though. I do love the tough biker chick touch over this ballgown. It’s beautiful edge, both strong and soft. I loved this low, soft ponytail look too. I bought this dress from what was one of Mr de la Renta’s final collections before his death. I’m grateful to own this stunning piece, and I want to enjoy how I feel in it. It’s not the owning of the clothing, it’s the wearing and feeling beautiful in it, as the designer intended.
I truly love shorts. I remember wearing denim ones over black tights in middle school. While I can’t say I miss that look specifically, I do love the concept of an unexpected pair of shorts filling in for a more obvious choice of bottoms. It took me a long time to embrace my legs enough to think I could pull them off. While I’m definitely more toned now, I realize that I put myself through so much unnecessary self scrutiny and doubt. There was never a time I couldn’t have successfully worn shorts. I made myself small for no reason. Having kids so early, a fact I wouldn’t change for anything, catapulted me into this bizarre illusionary sense of being this old, unsexy, washed out mom type. It’s very easy to go down that rabbit hole in an orthodox community, where women are taught to hide their bodies from a very young age. Throw in the idea that we are “impure” when we menstruate as well as during the week after, and you quickly yield results that can best be described as “not hot”. Shorts=hot. Former Me=not hot. You dig?
Now my closet is full of ‘em; yeah Gurl! Some of my favorites are the winter pairs, because I love anything not obvious. These Sass and Bide glittery pair are perfect around holiday time. A little sparkle on the tush goes a long way! Balanced with the relaxed ease of a loose, comfy sweater with just the right amount of detail to be sexy in its own right. These Giuseppe Zanotti boots are a splurge and a standout. I’d never ever spend that much on shoes today, but I’m happy I have them. So killer. I wore my large scale fishnets because I couldn’t find black tights that didn’t have control top. Any suggestions?? Fishnets are my go to with shorts but I think this look would have been a bit better with plain black since the shorts are patterned. Still cute though. Mixing patterns is cool too, especially when winter in New York looks like a giant four month funeral. To any of you who want to experiment with shorts but have been intimidated; just go for it. Lengthen your possibilities wherever you can. Expand in every direction. Shorten the limitations you place on yourself.
Shortening the distance from my soul to yours today,